Last night, I enjoyed a great visit with a person who’s important to me. The conversaton ranged from silly to sublime. C. cooked a wonderful chicken dinner and we talked about things in a manner that was respectful and honest. When I heard myself say things like, “I know that you…”, I caught myself and then said, “What I really meant to say is that I perceive that you…” He did the same when addressing me.
A couple of topics might have made many people squeamish, defensive, or uncomfortable. C. and I were both clear that these topics were simply topics. They were in the room, we both acknowledged them, then heard each other’s thoughts and feelings about each of them. Then we got on with dinner and visiting.
This, my friends, was circle mind at work in the real world. For this, I’m grateful. Circle process is a practice in imperfection. Last night, C. and I did a pretty good job. We know more about one another. This includes how each of us chooses to communicate with one another and with others we know.
When have such moments of honest, circle-like communication graced your life recently? What happened as a result? How do you feel about it? How might you build upon it?
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