Last weekend, my friend Bev and I co-hosted/co-taught a PeerSpirit circle process training. One of the things we emphasise is that nobody needs to be fixed, advised, put on the straight and narrow, repaired, made better, or whatever synonym for these you might have. If a person doesn’t ask for our input in a circle-based gathering, they neither want nor need it. Their own soul is wise. Their own inner teacher is present in the circle. What they need will emerge in its time from their inner self. The inner self might be cued by something that the person hears from another circle participant or it might generate this wisdom in another manner. The simple act of witnessing the person, sitting with them consciously, and trusting hir wisdom is what the person needs. From time to time a well-placed open-ended question might be helpful, but no fixing.
How might we apply this concept outside of “official” circles? What might a chit-chat become if we let silence bloom between us and the friend who’s with us that we so desparately wish to fix? Who might they become? Who might we become? Let us know how it works, folks.
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Delightful post and so wise. My husband frequently says to me, “I’m not a problem for you to solve.” A real challenge for a Miss Fix-It. I’ve learned that not every perceived problem needs or wants fixing; and sometimes the perception is wrong.
Sometimes a person in circle does not ask for help because what is happening around them has a profound effect either indirectly or indirectly. Their container may well be full. If we attempt to pour our attention into them, we may cause the vessel to crack. Sometimes the Universe is wiser than we are.
Lovely image, Gail. Circle as vessel. It’s so strong, yet so fragile. Thank you for your thoughtful reflection here.