Yesterday, Steven and I hosted some friends for Easter dinner. We were joined by Sistah J, Kojey, Dougald, and La Terreur Miniscule and enjoyed New Orleans-style shrimp, rice, and asparagus followed by glazed oranges and Sistah J’s chocolate macaroons. We used Steven’s mom’s lovely china and silver. There was good conversation, sharing of problems, many moments of laughter (especially about potential career options for La Terreur), and a sense of family, even though none of us is related by blood. I’ve come to the conclusion that family is any group that is loving. I believe that we CAN choose our family, some of them by blood and some of them because they get us and love us for exactly who we are. We can choose who is in or out of our sphere of influence. It takes courage to say “no” to some and “yes” to others, but the sense of real community, love, depth, and enjoyment is worth it. Here’s a short reading about family.
- What is family? 7 of Swords, reversed. Family is more than what we believe it is. It’s a process of expanded one-on-one communication rooted in honouring diverse philosophies.
- What is family NOT? 7 of Cups, upright. A big group of everyone we know or meet.
- How can we create true family? Emperor, reversed. Be self-empowered beings who stand in our own authority and who honour the inner authority of the other(s).
- How should we NOT create family? King of Wands, reversed. Give up our self-image, reject our self-concept, relinquish alone time, or step out of our own growth process.
Let’s hear your thoughts, friend. What’s YOUR experience of family, chosen or otherwise? What’s your interpretation of the above cards? If you draw your own cards for the above questions, what do you get?