Last night’s monthly tarot class, Tarot for Relationships, was deep and fun and rich. We used the tarot as a feedback tool to explore all types of relating (intimate, professional, friends, family, etc.). With various layouts and processes, we looked at how we might find & create specific new relationships, maintain or tweak current ones, and end or find closure around others. My favourite activity of the evening was a dialogue between two cards (see the instructions below, after the reading). At the end of the evening, my friend Gerald Parks offered all attendees a Oneness blessing. Lovely! I was so energised after teaching that I did a short reading with the Motherpeace Tarot to explore our Tarot for Relationships gathering:
- What good can come out of tonight’s class for the participants? Son of Wands, upright. A more focused sense of who they are in the world and greater devotion to their self-expression.
- What good can come out of tonight’s class for me? Son of Discs, tilted to the right (round cards!). Deeper centredness/grounding and more dedication to my work.
- Which activity was most helpful to people in the class? 4 of Swords, reversed. The privately role-played dialogue/conversation between cards.
- In general, what purpose is served by the monthly tarot classes? Empress, upright. They provide an outlet for people’s instinct to offer love, caring, and support to one another.
Now, here’s an activity for you to try with your own tarot cards (or other insight tool). Think about a particular relationship that you’re in. Write down your names and the nature of your relationship. From your face-up tarot deck, choose one card that most looks or feels like you and one card that most looks or feels like the other person. Write down the card names and which card represents which person.
Place the two cards side by side. Take time to be with the card images. Notice how the figures in the two cards are interacting (or not). Notice the colours, shapes, actions, settings, and so forth. What do these tell you about your relationship? Now switch the order of the two cards. Again, notice the details. What do they tell you about your relationship with the person?
Choose a topic that you feel is important for you and the other person to explore together. Write it down. Pick up the two cards, one in each hand. Improvise a conversation between one card and the other about the topic. Speak the parts aloud. Speak a second conversation between the two characters from your most biased, “this is how I’d like the conversation to sound” point of view. Then make up another dialogue from the other person’s most biased, “this is how they’d like the conversation to sound” point of view. Lastly, speak the conversation as it’s most likely to sound realistically. Write down any insights you’ve gained from this process. It’s up to you whether or not you actually initiate the chat in real life. Your personal understanding may be enough.
Please let us all know how this process goes for you. The comments can help others to learn about their own process of relating with others.