Recently on Facebook, a member of one of the groups was wondering what kind of tarot spread s/he could do to explore the intimate relationship s/he’s currently experiencing. There was a curiosity about its potentials and how it might better meet hir needs. I suggested that s/he lay out eight cards in any pattern that pleases hir with these questions in mind:
1. What was the nature of the relationship between Name and me at the beginning?
2. What is the current nature of the relationship between Name and me?
3. What is the best that this relationship with Name can be by [specifiy a date or time frame here]?
4. What am I receiving from the relationship that I truly require?
5. What do I require from this relationship that I am not receiving?
6. How can I respectfully request this from Name?
7. What is Name’s most likely response to this request?
8. What is the most important thing for me to know or learn about this relationship between Name and me?
I hope that some of you find this helpful, not only in romantic relationships, but also in your exploration of business partnerships, friendships, connections with blood family members, and more. Please feel free to leave feedback in the Comments section.
Great, James. Thanks. In a reading about (intimate or otherwise) relationships, I often use a master question: are we on the same page? In my experience I’ve come to the realization that in questions about love (or other kind) this question subsumes all others. You may want to incorporate it somewhere in your spread and test its effect. For me, it’s the one that carries the most gravity.
Thanks, Camelia! I like that question, and I wonder how one might pose it in an open-ended form so that the power of choice still lies in the client’s hands. Perhaps by turning it into two questions:
* Where are we on the same page?
* Where are we not on the same page?
I’d pose it as the last. If the answer is yes, then one could work on it, just as the other cards might indicate, how and where. If the answer is no, I’d ditch the waste of time.
Very good if a person already has a stong inkling yet needs another piece of feedback to give them a “kick” one way or the other.
I’ve had people who were very glad to hear the no, and realize once and for all that, indeed, if the parties involved are not on the same page, all else is really an agonizing attempt to prolong the delusion.
Like I said, a very helpful “kick” and relief-inducing confirmation.
Excellent… the whole thing is very self-empowering for the person you are reading for… isn’t that the absolute nads about this whole business??? yo! xx
Thanks, Catherine. You’ve got it. The point is to help a person weigh what IS coming in with what ISN’T coming in, then assess how respectful a response can be expected when requests are made. The readee can add these bits of feedback to their own knowledge and experience to make an informed to decision about staying, changing, or going.